The definition of taskmaster is, a person who imposes a harsh onerous workload on someone. It's bad enough to have a human in your life who is a taskmaster. It could be a mother, spouse, and, even a child. This person expects you to do certain tasks such as fix breakfast, clean the kitchen, take out the trash, etc. - and they usually expect you to do it post-haste.
One thing I learned after years of therapy, however, is that we are frequently our own taskmaster. When we're not in a depressive episode or feeling anxious, our brain can create this voice that sends messages to you something like, "you must do the laundry right now." You may ignore the voice, and not do the laundry right away.
Some time later, the voice may step in again, "you haven't even started the laundry yet, you slacker - get on that right now!" This voice may feel more manageable when you're feeling "okay." However, it can be downright annoying and abrasive when you're already "down" and/or overwrought.
The best guidance I ever received was to quiet that taskmaster voice. I started by putting a face to that voice. It was my mother. Then, I drew a picture representing that face. Now, I had something to work with, and I started noticing the voice when it opened it's "mouth." I would think to myself, "STFU, taskmaster! I'll get to it when I have energy and motivation for it!"
This change in my thinking helped immensely, and the taskmaster rarely comes forward anymore. Instead, I note the things I need to take care of, such as washing dishes, running the vacuum cleaner, and paying a bill. I sometimes make a list, but if my energy and interest are low, a list doesn't happen.
I've also learned that it's okay to let things go - I just know that some things may lead to a negative "ding," such as a late fee, mold growing on dishes, and so forth. It's a matter of prioritizing.
I found this interesting article online about the taskmaster. Feel free to give it a look when you have the chance. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/evolution-of-the-self/201710/do-you-have-an-inner-taskmaster-how-can-you-tell
"...you no longer must prove your value, that you’ve already established it and it’s time to "kick back" or "chill out." That, finally, you're no longer obliged to estimate your value in terms of eternal doing." ~ Leon F. Seltzer, Ph.D.
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